Being TOO nice...

posted Feb 15, 2012 | views: 88 | Tags: life, nice guys finish last, paragraphs, nice, Valentines Day, assholes, relationships, women, rants, frustration

I had a good day yesterday for the first time in a very long time. I landed a great computer help desk job. I felt on top of the world in my suit and my fresh professional looking haircut. I knew right after the interview that I nailed it and had the job. I called this woman I've been talking to online and she asked if we could get together for Valentines Day so I was very excited and happy. I felt that the day couldn't get any better. I got to her place and we had a sandwich and talked. We watched a movie and laughed and talked about our trials and tribulations in our lives. Just trying to get to know one another as it was the first time we had met in person. I thought it went great but I'm guessing that it didn't seem so great to her. I don't take being judged very well. I really liked her. We have so much in common. The thing is I know I'm just too nice. I don't get that about women. Why is being nice such a horrible thing? It is who I am. Do I have to change a great character trait to be an asshole? I mean if she wants me to slap her around a bit I will, but only if she asks for it. =D I just feel like I'm a great catch and don't understand why such a caring person like me is alone. Women talk all the time about trying to find a good man who treats them right, but once they find it they go right back to the degenerate asshole types again. I just don't get it. I'm frustrated as hell, and don't know what to do except to vent my frustration on here. And I really wish I knew how to make paragraphs on this site cause it bunches it all up and makes it hard to read. Arrghhhh........(end rant)



Comments

  • Me-Myself&I said Feb 15, 2012...
    i don't get it too. how can a guy be too nice! with being so nice of a guy... are you shy also? are you easy to talk to? or ..lol.. talk too much..like me! no, not all women shy away from a good guy. .... to get paragraphs... hit enter twice.. like this ;) hey... nice women have just as hard of a time finding a good mate. haven't you heard the song.... good girls goes to heaven while .... so there you go. it really works both ways...good women get hurt by bad men...just like good men get hurt by bad women! maybe that is why there is so many sad love songs, ya think? ;) Take care
  • Me-Myself&I said Feb 15, 2012...
    lol... it didn't work.... hit twice my butt
  • SlickNick said Feb 16, 2012...
    I think it's me. I'm to over zealous. I need to relax and be cool. I rush into things and scare them away. I get caught up in the moment. I'm just a really intense person and I think it scares people off. I'm just sad because I know that I can make someone really happy, I just don't have the people skills to keep people around long enough to give me a chance.
  • Me-Myself&I said Feb 16, 2012...
    me too, too intense, i feel so deeply ...me neither, guess I don't know how to hold their interest? I guess. I sit alone at home.... good enough evidence for me... that I am correct.
  • SlickNick said Feb 16, 2012...
    I think you are being a bit harsh on yourself. I mean have you tried to go out and meet people? Not that I take my own advice or anything. Haha! I'm a bit of a hermit which doesn't help much but the internet has come a long way and a lot of people meet online. I tend to judge too quickly. The funny thing is she texted me back. But I still get the feeling that I'm going to end up the friend instead of the boyfriend. I'm just going to try and chill out since I have some kind of chance. Maybe she'll see me for me and give me a shot. Who knows. I think we just got to both stop being so hard on ourselves Memi. You're deserving of someone special just like everyone else. We just gotta take it in stride and when we're down we'll just write it out on here and buck up and get back on that wild horse again.
  • SlickNick said Feb 17, 2012...
    I crave human contact. Just the innocent holding of hands, kissing, and holding one another. It doesn't take me long to figure out if I'm compatible with someone. To me those little signs make me feel wanted and let me know where I stand. It's hard for me to date at first because of the stress I put myself through wondering what the other person thinks of me. I wonder if they are talking to other people at the same time. Maybe I'm paranoid but if I like someone of course I want them all to myself. Is that not human nature? Can't a kiss or a caress tell you a thousand words about a person? If a person has had a rough life can't you see it in their eyes? I wonder if I'm really so hard to understand. Don't I want what everyone wants? Why does love come so tough for me? I'm just trying to figure myself out. It might take me the rest of my life at this rate.
  • travelr712 said Feb 17, 2012...
    my experience, it's not that you're 'too nice'. nobody's 'too nice'. it's that you were 'putting your best foot forward', and in this town, it is taken as being disingenuise. they know you're not like that all the time, so they think you're insincere and you're playing them, and it makes them worry about what your dark side really is. another thing i know about this town, from personal experience is, there is a particular type of male personality that does well here, and you and i don't have it. i did great in indy, better in a year than i did in 25 here. it's not us, it's this town. i know for a fact i'm not suited for here, i suspect you aren't either.
  • SlickNick said Feb 17, 2012...
    Thanks for the comment trav and nice to see you around. Yeah this area we live in is a hotbed for ignorance. I've had the thought before that it is probably the area I live in. But it's nice that you think that might be it too. I thought it was interesting that you had luck in an area that is so close to home. It's not really that far away. Maybe we just live in the asshole of the universe. I took the things that I learned as a child to heart. To be honest and communicate well. To treat others with kindness and respect, and to be a gentleman towards women. I always thought people would appreciate these things that come natural to me. Maybe I'm too good to be true or whatever but it is who I am. Should I really dumb down these things just to make people more comfortable? Everyone has a light and a dark side. The duality of man. I just do things more towards the light because I've been down the dark side and I don't like what it brings you.

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